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I am a member of several infidelity support groups on fb. I have often wondered when I am responding to things in those groups if I am talking to a fellow SI-er; there's been a couple over the years that I am almost positive on just because of grammatical or content/story similarities. I've pointed quite a few people over the years to SI and I've wondered too when I'm responding to someone in here if they came here because I suggested it. I hope so - this place has been so instrumental in my healing.

Is just strange because some folks here on SI have helped me SO much in my journey that I consider them friends, even though I have no idea who they are really, or what they look like, or anything truly substantive about them.

I get how beneficial it is for SI to be anonymous so I'm not suggesting anything different, but does anyone else wonder about this?

I’ve had the privilege to meet 2 SI members in person. I have a few FB friends from here as well. These relationships have enriched my life immeasurably.

Why not send a PM/DM and ask? If someone wants to keep their anonymity, they can do so easily. And if not, you’ll maybe have a new friend.

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One of my FB friends from here is literally the first person I call or text in an emergency outside of my family. Sometimes even before my family. Another one offered to pay for a plane ticket when JM was trying to get home from Nicaragua in 2018 when civil war broke out while he was there. There’s someone on the other side of the world who shares another bond with me and my sister, and I can call her for anything. And that goes both ways.

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[This message edited by HFSSC at 6:40 PM, July 15th (Friday)]

I’m not in an infidelity Facebook group because I like the anonymity of being able to share deep personal things with strangers. My concern is a troll taking info and spreading it.

But, at the same time I’m not real concerned with my friends here on SI knowing my identity, I would actually love to join a meet up if one is ever set up.

I always wonder about the people in line at Walmart. Is this someone on SI? I work in real estate and met a lady selling her house because she was divorcing. She started talking to me about her WH and what he did to her. She got emotional and then I started getting emotional. We hugged it out. I just wonder if that sweet lady is here.

I do have someone on SI that I have never met in person but consider a personal friend, knows all about us and our kids. Also the first person I contact in an emergency.

This is a special place to me, I don’t post every day, but I’ve been here every day since I registered.

  Moving to General

Prior to Covid, HT and I had an annual G2G each October open to any members that wanted to come. Over the years we have met some great people and have made good friends as a result.

I have said it so many times, there is nothing like being in a room/house full of people that understand you. There is definitely a bond that forms.

I tried to open my house back up last year, but Covid has been a viscous thing. We have been wondering whether to try again again this year.

I am not on FB so I can’t relate there, but I have recommended this site to people and wonder if they have ever decided to join.

Wow I chose my words very carefully since it was in OT. Glad this discussion was moved.

So the rest of the story (now that we are in General). When I met the lady selling her house because her cheating WH was a POS. When she told me the story I started tearing up. She looked me in the eye and said "did you cheat on your wife?" I said "no I’m in your shoes". She grabbed me and hugged me and we had a cry together. I am always professional when dealing with clients, but we both needed that. Also, I’m not a hugger but it was cleansing and refreshing. I have never seen her since, but if you are here I got your back Sister.

I recommended this site to a coworker several years ago. I occasionally wonder if he’s ever been here.

Im not in any infidelity groups. But I am rather active on several SM platforms.

I'm positive I've come across several SI members. This site has particular phrases that I see often. And,a few times, I've responded to a comment with "SI?" And they come back with a positive response.

A comment on g2gs ...

there is nothing like being in a room/house full of people that understand you. There is definitely a bond that forms.

We have attended several and hosted some. They are all different. Sometimes they function as a support group; sometimes they're just fun; sometimes mixed. Sometimes the group gels well, sometimes not. Sometimes laughter, sometimes tears.

I agree with WOEz, but I think of it a bit differently.

We have not shared our struggle with our friends, so there's a part of our lives that we hide while with them. At a g2g, almost everyone there has been affected by infidelity. I say 'almost', because occasionally an SI member brings a new potential partner along. In any case, I've felt no need to hide at a g2g.

We have not shared our struggle with our friends, so there's a part of our lives that we hide while with them. At a g2g, almost everyone there has been affected by infidelity. I say 'almost', because occasionally an SI member brings a new potential partner along. In any case, I've felt no need to hide at a g2g.

Same here, I think it would be great to be in a room with people that get us. I have a standing invitation to our home with 2 couples on SI in R.