WS Therapy Sessions

I’m like 11 years out. But something I always was wondering. What do the ws talk about in IC. Is it about why the did it or do they actually talk about what they did? I did ask my wife about it but she was not very descriptive of it. I know mine was more of describing her past and some of mine but it really focused on her behaviour. Any insight from
any waywards?

3 comments posted: Sunday, September 21st, 2025

Interesting Conversation 10 years later

My wife (WS)said the other day how happy she was that we did the work and stayed in our marriage. I thought about that for a bit before I responded. I then said. I had a very different experience than you did during and after the affair. None of it was good. And it negatively changed me. Now I know all the optimists will look for the cup being half full but for me I could have really not gone through that. I kind of think of it as the time she finally started getting her shit together. Does anybody this far out kind of feel the same? When you look back you kind of think "What the fuck were you thinking? I find she really has changed for the better and seems to have finally gotten it. But I find I became hardened and like the Matrix I ate the pill and reality set in on how screwed up my wife and her AP was. I ended up telling her . Sure things are better but if it was up to me I would have skipped the entire experience. It’s like they forget how bad it was.

14 comments posted: Thursday, September 26th, 2024