Is a mid-life crisis real or just another excuse for cheating?

A few weeks ago, my 2nd oldest son and I were talking about my WW affair.

It came up during a conversation about my oldest son leaving his wife and kids for one of the admen girls at his work
It f**ks me off and triggers me big time again. He of all people would know how hard it was on me and him at that time and still is to me this woman is married also with children. Vent over.

My wife’s A was back in 2000 so a long time ago. The two older boys were young teenagers when it all went down, I asked him if he and his brothers talk much about that time and what they thought of their mother doing this to myself and them. His answer you mean mum’s mid-life crises.

That got me thinking and after a lot of Googling the results are conflicting.

So, my question.

Is it an excuse or something that some people go through that don't have the mental ability to deal with it in a less destructive way?

Or just another very poor excuse for cheating?

You hear it a lot when families or others talk about someone cheating.

It's like he was having a mid-life crisis, just like he’s not that bad a person and wouldn't normally do anything like that.

Here's just two little bits off the net.

-A midlife crisis is typically defined as emotional turmoil marked by a strong desire for change.

-Many factors come into play: empty nest syndrome, loss of youth and vitality, realization of one's own mortality, and desiring to "live now."

30 comments posted: Wednesday, June 11th, 2025

What are they fantasizing about while self-pleasuring?

What are the chances that my WW thinks of AP when she pleasures herself? Long story short my WW and I have a collection of adult toys we use for foreplay that are kept in a draw by the bed I leave early for work before she gets up in the morning and about 6 months ago, I started wondering if she used them while I am not around so I positioned them so that if they were moved and not put back exactly the same I would know well it turns out that she does use them not a lot probably 3 times a month I don't want to embarrass her by telling her I know and suffer the anger from her by my sneaking around and even if I could ask her she would never admit that she has him in mind. I do not have a problem with her pleasuring herself when I am not around, and I confess I masturbate like everyone else but would be upset if she was masturbating to the images of AP. So, a simple question to WS if you do this on your own do you think of AP when doing it? and BS do you think WW’s do?

Side note WW affair was over 20 years ago.

14 comments posted: Tuesday, October 17th, 2023